Dealing with rapid change

Rapid change can be like a sensory overload. There is simply too much going on to process all at one go.
Rapid change can be like a sensory overload. There is simply too much going on to process all at one go.

Over the last few months my world has changed dramatically. I am now immersed in a totally new reality, surrounded by new opportunities and challenges.

It’s easy to get overwhelmed by it all. There are times when there is so much happening, so many new things to process, that it becomes impossible to keep up and you start tuning some of it out.

I guess it works in exactly the same way as sensory overload. If you are in an environment where there is simply too much noise and too much distraction it becomes difficult to focus and the instinct is to protect yourself by shutting down. Think of children covering their ears when they enter a noisy room and you will know what I mean.

The fact is however that we are not children. Much as we would like to, there is no running away from change. Difficult though it may be we have to deal with it.

Life does not give us a map. There is no way of knowing where it will take us.
Life does not give us a map. There is no way of knowing where it will take us.

We cannot control what life throws at us, but we CAN control how we react to it. I have written about the power of a Can-Do attitude and this also applies when it comes to navigating forks in the road. It is important to dig deep down to find the courage and the self confidence to decide which way to go and then to commit to making it work. There is no way of knowing whether the choice you made is the right one because we do not have a crystal ball so making the decision is scary, but ultimately just putting the decision off, or deciding not to decide, is a decision in itself, so you simply have to take a leap of faith.

The truth is that although change is uncomfortable, it is necessary. I do not want to live my life in suspended animation, doing the same thing day after day, following the same path for the rest of my life. I want to learn and experience new things. So whether my poor ears like it or not, I have to walk into the room and listen to the cacophony and make sense of it all.

When I made the decision to sell my company and start a new career I set the course for a total change of direction in my life. I knew that my life was going to be turned upside down and I was all for it, so I cannot claim that I did not know what I was letting myself in for.

If any of you reading this are going through rapid change or about to jump into a period of rapid change, my advice to you is to embrace it. There is no point trying to resist the tide, just go with the flow and make it work for you. There will of course be times when you will feel overwhelmed by it all but these are some coping mechanisms that I have found very helpful.

  1. Give the dust time to settle. When you are faced with totally new situations it helps to give yourself time to get used to what is happening and to work out how to deal with it in a positive way.
  2. Lean on people you trust. Asking for help and advice is not a sign of weakness. Talking things through with someone you trust can help you see things from a totally different perspective and give you the confidence to face the changes in your life.
  3. Find time to tune out, release some stress and recharge your batteries.

This is how I am facing the kaleidoscope of change my life has become. I am giving myself time to adapt, leaning on my husband and my friends for support and making a conscious effort to get involved in other things that are totally unrelated to my career.

Over time what was initially new and somewhat intimidating will become familiar and motivating. I am looking forward to that day.

Author: Mrs Smelling Freedom

After selling my business my priority is consolidating my family's financial independence. I blog about Entrepreneurship, Financial Independence and living life to the full!

8 thoughts on “Dealing with rapid change”

  1. Congrats on making that change in your life, a lot of people are stuck with inertia. Well done!

    Life isn’t a fairytale, nor is it scripted like you say. We all create our own luck and our own life, so we must do the best we can. It’s a great outlook to have.

    Hopefully there is a lot of change for us soon. We want to make an IVF baby (in progress) and we want to step up the blog..so there’s 2 big things.

    Tristan

  2. Loved this perspective and recommendation to just embrace it! Admittedly I don’t deal with change well so need to work on this. Have you heard of the Voluntary Life Podcast? He sold his business, followed by almost all his possessions and now travels the world. You might find it interesting.

  3. Some good advice that you give. I especially like point 2: talk to people to have a sounding board. It can more than help to get everything straight and clear.

    Some people do not like change. Given my DISC (a behavioural insight test) profile, I think that change is fun.

    1. You are an intrepid soul Amber- most people freeze like deer in headlights when they spot change coming their way!

      I say bring it on – without change life would be boring would it not? 🙂

  4. I totally agree with what you said about change. I’ve been in situation where dramatic changes happened all at the same time. I was indebted to the tune of $40K. My wife came from the Philippines during the time I was battling with the idea on how I would solve my debt problem. In the same timeframe, she got pregnant and we moved to another state. There were so many changes that happened.

    Instead of succumbing to the situations, I proactively understood and worked out the situations. Luckily, I got everything under control. My family came out from this experience totally better than we were before these changes happened. We rose above the challenges and we survived and succeed.

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